A good way to stay on track in YadaFactor feedback is to avoid using the word “we.” 

The YadaFactor Participation Agreement asks us to speak in I rather than WE statements when sharing.  

In feedback, avoiding the word WE is still a good idea.  Instead, try to use the pronoun “you” to reflect back what you heard.  This keeps the focus on the one who shared and helps us avoid adding our opinions, even an important truth. 

Here’s an example. If you notice that your partner connected scripture to a situation in her life, Yada-appropriate feedback could go something like this: “You applied those scriptures on fear in that situation with your daughter that day!” It might be tempting to add, “That’s great, because we know that fear is of the enemy.” But try to stop yourself from tacking on that last “we” statement.  Do you see how that’s giving an opinion, even if it’s true? 

Another example of appropriate feedback could be this: “Did you notice the themes of trust and obedience in your journal this week?”  Try not to add, “We know that trust and obedience show our love for God.  Jesus says so in John 14:15.”  You may feel that this is an important and encouraging truth to share, but it would be adding an opinion and a scripture. 

Just pause when you feel a “WE” statement rising up.  Focusing your feedback on what your partner shared will keep your triad safe.